“I have to spank my toddler to teach him not to run in the street.”

Excerpt from Positive Discipline by Jane Nelsen

Jane’s response:

I ask this parent if she would be willing to let her toddler play near a busy street unsupervised after he has been spanked to ‘teach’ him to stay out of the street..

Parent: “Of course not.”

I then ask how many times she would need to spank before she would feel it safe to let her child play unsupervised near a busy street.

Most parents agree that they would not let their toddler play near a busy street unsupervised until around the ages of 6 to 8, no matter how many spankings they have had to ‘teach’ them.

This illustrates the fact that maturity, or readiness to learn certain responsibilities is the key- not spankings.



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